joy: self-intimacy has been transformative
Photography by Petra Kleis
We’ve known Joy Léonie since day one of sitre (more or less) as she has such a refreshing and honest relationship to pleasure, intimacy and sex. This is also why this is not the first time she’s been interviewed by sitre - but this time she’s just been modelling for our latest shoot with Petra Kleis. There’s no one better to talk intimacy and connections with than her. She’s been writing about it throughout her 20’s - and honestly, she has been a lot more open to exploring what intimacy means to her than we, Julie and Cecilie, were able to in our 20s. We adore how Joy explores her mental and physical wellness in such a holistic and fully immersive way, whether it’s studying yoga in Bali or travelling deep into the woods in Sweden to find a new perspective. Joy, thank you for always being so open and we hope that you’ll follow here right here.
How do you define intimacy?
It’s an intangible experience. For me, intimacy is allowing yourself to be completely vulnerable. It’s embodied presence. Confidentiality, mutuality and connectedness on the deepest of levels. It’s not ‘just’ having a deep conversation, it’s about understanding deeply. It’s about trust and equal transparency; being fully heard and seen. It’s about having the courage to be wide open in mind, heart, body and soul. For me, it’s emotional, spiritual and intellectual connection that simply transcends any physical touch. That’s the essence of true intimacy.
Can you share some common misconceptions about intimacy?
That intimacy is matter of sex/touch. And that sex is a matter of intimacy - it’s really not. Or that intimacy is easy and should happen all the time. I think once we’re able to view intimacy as more of an experimental process instead, we’ve come a long way.
What role do communication and trust play in fostering intimacy between partners?
They’re basically the pillars that uphold the bridge of intimacy between partners.
How do you create a deeper connection with yourself, both emotionally and physically?
I try to be kind to myself. I acknowledge my feelings without judgement and I practice self-compassion. Just as I would treat my best friend. I take care of my body and mind with movement and meditation. I prioritize listening to my body’s needs and responding to them with love. I take the time for solitude and self-reflection to understand myself better, and create a stronger sense of connection to myself.
Can you share some personal experiences or insights on how self-intimacy has positively impacted your life?
I have truly found that embracing self-intimacy has been an enriching and transformative journey of self-discovery and empowerment. As mentioned; taking that time for self-reflection and self-care has allowed me to develop a deeper understanding of my own needs and desires. Through practices like journaling, meditation, yoga, I’ve cultivated a strong sense of self-love and acceptance. It’s empowered me to set healthier boundaries in my relationships, advocate for my own needs and to communicate more authentically with others. Embracing my emotions without judgment allows me to navigate life’s darkness and light with resilience and compassion. Ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and balanced life.
Physically, prioritizing self-care has helped me feel more in tune with my body. Whether it’s through self-play, regular exercise, nourishing meals or just allowing myself to rest when needed.
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